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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
    
  1. Stay with us and keep calm.
    The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

  2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
    You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

  3. Move us to a quiet place.
    We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

  4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
    We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

  5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

  6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

  7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
    As odd as it sounds, it works.
WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:

1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. Weknow. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”


2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get outa pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.


3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.


4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.

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As someone who has had many a panic attack, this is very useful information!

youdrankmygingerale:

official-mens-frights-activist:

lastlips:

THIS.

this is a constant battle

do I genuinely prefer how my legs look/feel shaved or have i just been conditioned to prefer it?

do miniskirts and thigh high socks only make me feel more confident because i know men find me more attractive in them?

how can i tell? is there even a way to tell at this point?

On the opposite end of the spectrum, do conscious people actually prefer the opposite of these societal conditionings or do they just fall in love with the subversion behind it?

Every aspect of human nature is socially conditioned. Even those aspects which seem counter to our society.

(Source: fatgirlinohio)

science-baker:

huffingtonpost:

IKEA ADVERTISES ADOPTABLE DOGS IN STORES, BECAUSE EVERY HOME NEEDS A RESCUE PUP

The idea to display the pets inside the store started in Singapore as a collaboration between Ikea and two animal shelters, according to Business Insider. Together they formed the project Home for Hope.

Find out which state in the United States will be adopting rescue pet displays in Ikea stores here.

I’m cryinggggggg

femmenace-t:

pervocracy:

postwhitesociety:

hm

I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:

1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear.  ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me?  So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”

2) Women not having cheat codes.  ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me.  I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me.  Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”

3) Women not being a hive mind.  ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles.  Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all.  Make up your mind, women!”

4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”

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The Toynbee Tiles

the-riddle-and-the-question:

Cheerfully colored, lying in the middle of busy highways, in plain sight of city street corners- these manifestos are the work of a seriously disturbed individual, determined organization, or dedicated artist(s).

The first tiles were discovered in Philadelphia. “Toynbee” is the name chosen because it is the only common factor, a suspected reference to the British historian. That’s it. The rest of the tiles mention Kubrik; Zionist conspiracies; the Mafia; the FBI; a sales pitch for everyone to join the Tile Crusade.

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Authentic “Toynbees” have been found as far away as South Africa. Whoever the person (or persons) are, they are mobile, and stealthy. What is almost impossible to comprehend is the location. They are embedded in very busy thoroughfares- to photograph one is dangerous. I-476 and I-95, both interstates choked with Philadelphia commuter traffic, have tiles. Tiles that appear overnight.

Philadelphia PD once had a suspect. He had the interest in sci-fi and history, he had the income, but he died in 2003, in his 70s (and wasn’t in good enough health to lay these tiles in the middle of a street and dash off before being seen by a vehicle): regardless, they did not stop in 2003.

Some have followed hints to a suspect in Dover, England, but all logic stops there. Even the connection between “Toynbee… Kubrik…2001…Jupiter” (the reoccurring theme, if you will) requires you to pull a rabbit out of your hat to see it.

Here’s a quote from Arnold Toynbee himself: “Human nature presents human minds with a puzzle which they have not yet solved and may never succeed in solving.”

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